Category: Thoughts

All of me

All of me

Continuing my kink isn’t therapy (except when it is) series, I want to share my experience with kink, self acceptance and mental…

Am I Queer enough?

Am I Queer enough?

Thinking “I’m not queer enough” is apparently a problem for many in the queer community of which I’m now a part of…

Queer and Loving It!

Queer and Loving It!

This is a follow up to “Am I in or out?” In summary, after 30+ years of denial I realized that I’m…

Queer

Queer

I know it’s controversial and I totally respect people who don’t like the reclaiming of Queer but me? I love it. Queer…

A little shame

A little shame

I’ve always been “a little bit little.” When I first got into kink and BDSM I didn’t realise it, mostly because I…

Am I in or out?

Am I in or out?

I’m what society would call “middle aged”. I’m of no interest to most advertisers as I’ve left the most lucrative demographics behind.…

Caress

Caress

I started writing the first version of this, a D/s take on “caress,” and part way through realised that I have a…

My split attraction model

My split attraction model

I never assumed I was straight and you’d think that, therefore, I would have had a very simple and clear understanding of…